Something I experienced the other day made me want to write this post and see if I could get anyone elses thoughts on the subject. I was waiting at a busy train station sitting down on the platform bench, and whilst getting myself settled, finding tickets etc, I heard this sobbing, loud, really loud sobbing. I looked around for a baby, or young child and then it dawned on me. The young and very attractive lady sitting next to me was crying her eyes out. Blowing her nose, the works, she was on her own, bags next to her, and to be honest I just didn't know what to do....Well, actually I knew what to do, I held out my hand, held onto hers gently, and with tears already forming in my eyes, I asked her if she was alright. I could tell she was grateful to have somebody reach out and feel her pain, whatever that was, just a little tiny bit.
Just like seeing someone be sick, that kind of makes me feel a little queezy too, seeing someone cry with such sadness makes me feel sad too. One thing I am very proud of is my sensitivity, yes it can be taken advantage of, but mostly, it more than anything makes me aware of how other people may be feeling, some people in life just go through it saying what they want, about who they want and with no consideration to thoughts and feelings. Because how I feel inside can be so intense at times, I truly believe I am more in tune with other peoples feelings, well I hope so anyway. The lady replied that she was alright, and just looked at me with a little thank you in her eyes, and I gave a little smile and went back to my bag sorting. Of course she could have been leaving loved ones behind, I suppose at train stations many a tear falls down ones cheeks, but I don't know, her crying was just so intense. I shall never know what made her cry that day. The train came, we both got on, went to different carriages, and onwards both our lives went....
So, what I began wondering is, if you felt those tears come in a public place, near strangers, people who didn't know you, would you let them fall....Sometimes tears just come ( very easily for me as it happens ) I personally think crying is a strength, and not a weakness, not a sign of a poor fractured soul, who needs to snap out of it. In my method training of acting, I could think sad thoughts and be crying before you knew it, but real life is different, the tears are real, there are real thoughts and feelings behind them. But if there was nowhere to hide and you felt the need to have a good cry there and then, would you? And let anyone who felt they wanted to, reach out to you. Also, what would you do if you saw someone cry, like I did, I guess some people just want to be left alone to cry in public and not be bothered, but for me, I just couldn't help but reach out to that young lady on the platform. Though would you look the other way, hold out a hand, want to reach out perhaps, but something holds you back?
For the record, and which may not come as a surprise, I have cried in public....
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